Making Choices

Making Choices

“We need to teach the next generation of children from day one that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.”

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

We might have thought that lock down was starting to break down, only to find ourselves suddenly sitting with the “threat” of a second wave, a mask wearing mandate and a slogan accompanying it that says “We are all in this together” and suggestions that those not wearing a mask need to be marginalised from the rest of society in some way.

The power of the media, and the way censorship continues to isolate and destroy any opposing voices to the official line, however scientific and factual they might be, suggests freedom to make our own choices has “gone out of the window”. Interesting times, huh?

It is though in interesting times that the most growth can take place for you as a Soul. If you have a side of the fence where your opinions are, you might be despairing of the mask wearing mandate, or scowling at those who oppose it. In all likelihood, whoever you are, you could well be going through some sort of emotional turmoil with all that’s happening or all that has happened. There are plenty of people who are.

The reality of course is that freedom is an inside job. Anyone who has read books like’s Man Search for Meaning, Long Walk to Freedom and another auto/biographic of some of the great leaders/visionaries of the past will know during that “a period of great difficulty”, it is our inner resources that sustain us, give us hope and help us to develop the resilience we need to survive and then thrive. It is not necessarily our ability to fight and protest which brings the victory but our ability to do the inner work and maintain our inner equilibrium.

Nurturing our own inner resources means maintaining your own vibrational frequency in 21st century terms, and it is as critical now as it has been for the past 5 months, and will continue to be so for the rest of all our lives. A great change has affected everyone on this planet, and at points of great change in our lives you can either scream “aaaargh” (in despair, fear, anger or whatever else comes up) or you can softly sigh “aaah” in recognition that something is happening beyond our mortal knowledge.

The reality, and it’s the only reality that you can truly rely upon (if you choose to) is that you are responsible for how you respond to anything. You might have an initial burst of emotion at what you see on the news, or how others behave, the situation in general etc However having awareness of that, processing it and then coming back to centre and your own emotional equilibrium is vital.

The outside world will continue to do as it does, and the only way that any of us can start to bring change to that is by working from the inside out. That is almost a cliche in energy circles as it has been used so often, however it is more importantly an energetic reality. What happens in the inside of you has bearing on what happens in real life outside of you. And what we all need is to be at peace, and to be at peace with what is happening around us, irrespective of whether we like it or not. Then we can direct our energy in a positive fashion. Pouring rebellious energy into what we don’t like is unlikely to be of help. Pouring peaceful energy into solutions that might help us…well that might well help us.

For example, I know a lot of people who are completely anti-vaccine, and I completely get why. If you do a little research then you will see that SOME of the statistics around vaccine are unwholesome, to say the least. However, is being “anti” anything a good thing in energetic terms??? I am always mindful of Mother Teresa’s stance on war, when she said:

“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.”

Why? Because she knew that being anti-war actually energised the war. Martin Luther King’s quote that “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”  shows that he understood the same energetic principle. Gandhi ended the British rule of India without ever raising a weapon etc…

These icons from our history books are exactly the same as you and I. They may be household names however that’s irrelevant as they were in real-life energetic situations where their future was in the balance, and so are we. Faced with a government that has at best made some odd decisions, and a media that seems determined to strike fear into our hearts with every offering, its important that we take care of ourselves in this respect, as no-one else will.

In taking care of ourselves, and our emotional and energetic equilibrium, we raise and maintain our vibrational frequency. In doing so, we might automatically take care of others around us, or we might find that some people and situations (the ones who aren’t taking responsibility for maintaining their own vibration) suddenly become challenging to be around.

If you are ready to take the view that you are a creator of your own reality, or least partially embrace that concept, then it is always worth reflecting about what happens to you, and how you have played a part in its creation. Working out whether you make your choices from love (creator) or from fear (victim) is a good place to start, and that’s a particularly useful skill anytime, and particularly so now.

We all have a tendency to slip into fear-based choice making, as its part of our innate human programming. The trick is to recognise how quickly you are doing that. The last few months have probably promoted more fear into the collective human consciousness than has ever been unleashed before in the history of humanity, and it will have been both natural and normal to have bought into that, even if it was only very briefly. The trick is to observe what that fear is doing to you emotionally, as it will strike a chord somewhere within your subconscious, before you unplug from the cascade of fear. Recognising and accepting that part of yourself, which is probably a part that quite naturally wants to stay safe, is an important process. Hopefully, you have been able to do that for yourself.

The problems with fear are of course the power that it has over people, and the fact that we humans have a tendency to dip back into all too easily. As soon as we feel threatened, then hey presto, a wave of fear comes up. Then it is how quickly you recognise and deal with that which is key. The challenge with this recent barrage of fear is that it has been quite relentless. The media and social media (especially) have simply had the public at their mercy, and rarely have the messages that they have sent out been anything other than fearful in nature.

As a result of the lock-down and the media fear barrage, anxiety levels are higher than they have ever been with many people, particularly younger people. Sadly, anxiety, mental health issues and the resulting dip in individual self-esteem levels will probably prove to be much bigger medium-long term issues than the “virus” itself.

Low self-esteem is an area that affects so many different areas of an individual life, and so many individuals in life. From the obvious area of confidence, it moves into weight issues, addictions, social withdrawal and many more. And it affects the elderly, business people, children  and so many more. In a 2017 research in the UK by Dove, it was found that 61% of 10-17 year old girls in the UK have low self-esteem. That is quite simply a shocking statistic, and you have to wonder how much worse that stat would look in 2020. Quite how, of even if, society deals with that going forward is important for us all.

Global events such as the lock-down are effectively a seismic shift in consciousness and on the plus side of it there are many more people who are “waking up”, perhaps as a consequence of having more time to reflect on life, and perhaps also as a result of the energy shift of the past few months. Fortunately, there is also a growing number of people who have reached an understanding that the change that they can develop in themselves does affect their own reality and that of the greater whole too. A very influential part of that change is very much intention-based choice, and it is about staying focused on the pro rather than the anti. And equally relevantly, it is a choice of whether to make decisions out of fear (anti) or love (pro). When we create out of fear, then we create more fear; it’s that simple, and fear keep us in a place of powerlessness and victimhood.

Being conscious about our choices from at least a fearless and perhaps from a love perspective is one of the many learnings of “now”. By staying in emotional and energetic balance, we help ourselves and we may find ourselves helping others without ever needing to lift a finger. Being more conscious about who we are and how we are is something that we can all do every day. That’s where we are now, and where we are likely to remain for a while.

Choose wisely and with love.

Doug x